by Sr. Xavier Kozubal

Discerners pray in the chapelSometimes we operate on automatic pilot in our lives, going through the usual routines of our day without taking much time to think about what we’re doing. One item on a wellness assessment asks if we take time alone to think about what’s important in life. This reminds me of Gehenbrenner’s article on consciousness examen, taking time to sort out the contents of our consciousness. One author suggested taking time at the end of our day to reflect on the thoughts and feelings we have experienced. There are many benefits to self-reflection.

Reflecting on our life helps us to evaluate our actions and determine whether we’re heading in the direction we want our life to go. We can also evaluate our relationship with others and God, determining whether or not we’re satisfied with how they are. Many internet sites offer questions for self-reflection. Here are some questions to consider:

  • What am I most grateful for in my life?
  • What are the most important things to me in life?
  • How would I describe myself?
  • What am I satisfied with about myself? What am I dissatisfied with?
  • What are my values?
  • Do I love myself? Why or why not?
  • What is my ideal self?
  • What are the things I’ve learned from my life experiences?
  • Is there something I’m holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
  • Is there something I want to do?
  • If I were to die tomorrow would I have any regrets?
  • What is my idea of an ideal life?

Perhaps on a quiet day, we can consider some of these questions. There is a lot to ponder. Taking time to journal our thoughts and feelings would be helpful. Making a date with ourselves to spend some time alone sorting out our life and consciousness will give us a sense of where we are in our life and an idea of how we want our life to go.

We can also ask similar questions about our relationships with others and with God.  Are we satisfied with where we are? Are there goals we could set and work on? We’re a work in progress and we don’t know how much time we have to complete our lives in a way we can feel good about.


Editor’s Note: Sr. Xavier Kozubal, CSFN, received her PhD from the University of Maryland in 1975 and studied pastoral counseling at Neumann University where she was introduced to a holistic approach to counseling. In 2013, Sr. Xavier retired as director of an inner city women’s center in Philadelphia. To read her Ministry Profile, please click here.

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